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Today we begin to examine Biblical truths and learn how to get a hold of insecurity. The first step on this path is to believe in your worth and value. Let me help you get started: YOU ARE VALUED! YOU HAVE WORTH! THERE IS NO ONE LIKE YOU!
Insecurity is essentially a lack of confidence in yourself. Why believe that?! Psalm 139:13-15 talks about the great care God took in creating you. Such thought, love, and dedication was taken in the unseen moments God knit you together carefully in your mother’s womb.
Luke 12 describes the interest God takes in the sparrows and lilies, and yet, isn’t His devotion to you greater. Indeed, Scripture is filled with words of God’s love and value for you.
You need to know right now that you are valued. You need to know that God cares more about you than you could ever comprehend. You must understand that His love is deeper, wider, and higher than you could imagine. Collapse into His love for you. Embrace His care. Trust that how He has designed you is wonderful and powerful. You have a purpose and calling very specific to how He wants to use you; that’s a lot of thought and planning set aside specifically for you and you alone.
When you think your gifts are not as important. Rebuke it. When you feel your experience is lacking. Lean into His. When you feel your value is nothing compared to another, trust what His word says about you.
Tell insecurity today that you have value by speaking Psalm 139 over your life. Let the words of Luke 12 drench you in the assurance of His care. Every time an insecure thought pops into your head, push it out with prayer and these Scriptures.
Remember, you are fearfully and wonderfully made!
The comparison trap--we all get caught in it at some point, if not many. It’s why we say things like “keeping up with the Jones” and see teenage girls binge on fashion magazines and reality shows to make themselves “perfect.” It’s as if we are nurtured by our culture to evaluate others and elevate our lives beyond that.
Wanting what others have is the ultimate thief of joy and will leave you in utter disappointment with your life. Compare yourself to others and you’ll take for granted your own gifts and opportunities. Early on in ministry, as a young twenty-something, I use to get caught up in the promotion of others around me. It caused me to be discontent, jealous, and oblivious to what God was doing in my life. I’m thankful He changed my heart, and can now celebrate in other’s blessings.
Galatians 6:4-5 is a stunning statement to combat comparison, especially in The Message translation.
Scripture instructs us to take inventory, examine, and dive deep into who God has made us as an individual. What talents and gifts do you have, not your co-workers? How can your experience and testimony be used, not your neighbors? God has designed you with a particular story and skillset that He wants to use in a very particular way.
Once you are aware of your dreams and purpose, focus on that. Not on your friends, or the co-worker down the hall. Jump into what God has for you and give it your all! Verse 5 says to, “take responsibility for doing the creative best you can with your own life.”
Christine Caine shared a powerful phrase I reflect on in my moments of comparison, “Someone else’s success does not rob you of anything.” If we can remember this, we can remain confident in the calling God has on our own life. You see, God has a special plan just for you! When the time is right (to which you’ll see the time was indeed right), everything will come together as it should because God did it. That way we can boast only in Him and His power, as opposed to thinking it was our will that made it happen.
Lean into Galatians 6 today, trust that the dreams God has placed on your heart are there for a reason and sink your teeth into what is right before you!
In high school, I use to care so much about what people thought of me that I use to be nervous to walk across the cafeteria because I didn't want people to critique me.
- Do they like me?
- How does my outfit look?
- Was my joke funny?
On and on thoughts played in my head like a dripping faucet that wouldn't allow me any peace. I can relate to Saul's actions in 1 Samuel 15, unfortunately. But thankfully, I can also "not relate" to him because God has helped me over the years to care less about what others think and more about what He thinks.
In this chapter, God orders Saul to battle and defeat the Amalekites. And not just defeat them but annihilate them. At the core of this God wants to remove any trace of the wicked nation. However, "Saul and the army" spare the life of the king and keep the best livestock. The next day Samuel goes to find Saul, who ironically is building an altar to the Lord. Saul thinks he has done well by God. He thinks he has been obedient. However, Samuel confronts him on his obvious disobedience, having failed to do what God instructed. This alone leads to a powerful truth: partial obedience is still disobedience. Saul did not fully carry through on God's command and, therefore, is deemed disobedient.
Now here's where the insecurity plays in: "I was afraid of the men and so I gave in to them."
Saul's disobedience can be traced to his desire to please men above God. It provides a powerful example of what the desire for men's approval can lead to. In this passage, we see that caring about what people think, particularly above what God thinks, does lead to sin.
How does one avoid such a trap? Fight the urge to care! It seems so simple, and yet it’s hard to live out, isn’t it?
You have been given a moral compass and as a Christian, you are blessed to have the Holy Spirit dwelling within you. Chances are you're pretty set to know when something is wrong or right. When you feel something is wrong, don't do it! Even if people are directing you to the wrong thing. Fight the urge to care about what people think and find security in your Heavenly Father. What He thinks and desires is what really matters.
Insecurity was an ugly, unwelcomed companion in my life for many years. In fact, there is one particular phrase that still echoes is my mind like a broken record under the right circumstances. It’s the phrase, “I’m not good enough.” Maybe a similar phrase plays frequently in your mind as well, and it’s so familiar that it feels like an old comrade keeping you company.
Insecurity can manifest in many forms and we'll touch on some of those in this brief series. It’s not all inclusive, but rather an examination of what we find in Scripture and real life as the most common manifestations.
Believing you are not good enough is one and it has a particularly devastating effect--it keeps you from living at your full potential. For example, you give yourself one hundred percent to a passion, only to go overlooked. You want to give up because it seems there is no point. Or perhaps you try to do something romantic for your spouse but it falls flat. You internalize it to mean you’re not loving well.
When we put stock in this phrase and give it validity, we allow pieces of our potential to be chipped away. The truth is, God never wants you to feel inadequate or not good enough. He wants you to be aware of your weakness that you might lean into His strength, but never for a second does He want you to diminish your value.
I get goosebumps when I read The Message translation of 1 Peter 2:9. It describes that we are CHOSEN by God, not for ourselves, but to be an example of His power to take you, “from nothing to something, from rejected to accepted.” You are SOMETHING. You are ACCEPTED. When you or the enemy begin to whisper attacks about your value, rebuke such words and remind yourself of what 1 Peter 2 says.
Don’t allow insecurity to diminish your potential or steal away your calling. They will if you don’t keep careful guard over your heart and mind. In this plan, we will not only evaluate other manifestations of insecurity, but we will cover our lives with the truth of God’s word. At the end of this series, my prayer is that you will walk forth with the power of Scripture to know you’re valued and have a purpose that insecurity has no part in.
Microcosm Moment - By Gabi Kelley
I have come here to declare the faithfulness of God.
These past few weeks have been crazy as we’ve moved out of our home in Colorado and brought our family to a new home in Texas. I don’t think I’ve ever done something so HUGE, and I’m still in the center of the hugeness of it right now. I see the wind flying around me in circles, but I’m sitting here at a table in Starbucks in the stillness right in the middle of it.
This is where Jesus is.
I don’t mean here at Starbucks (although I’m pretty sure He hangs out at every single one – praise the Name of the Lord:D. I mean here, right here in the stillness and in the middle of the tornado of upheaval caused by a cross-country move. Just like He was there in the middle of the storm on the Sea of Galilee, He’s here in the middle of this chaos I’ve landed in.
And He’s faithful to keep me here in the stillness, despite what winds blow 6 inches in front of me.
What a good God. What a faithful Shepherd. What a beautiful Savior.
Honestly, this was the moment I was dreading. This moment when my husband started going to the office to his dream job and my kids started preschool and I was left adrift, left to fend for myself and to find my own way.
But that’s not how it is. That’s never how it really is, is it? Maybe it feels that way sometimes but never, not once, have I been left to fend for myself. It’s in these moments of seeming aloneness, these hours of unsure footing, that we have a choice. We can either give in to discouragement, feeling as though we are unseen, or we can look up into the eyes of our King, say, “Ok, I’m ready!” and let Him take us on the adventure of the unknown.
Why oh why would I choose discouragement? No, I will not accept it. I drop it by the side of the road, I pick up my suitcase full of hope instead, and I go on this adventure with my Jesus. He has never let me down and He has never left me alone.
This moment in this season is like a microcosm of this life I have chosen to live. In this life, I have known with surety what He has planted in my heart. I have clung to the dreams and the promises of God with everything in me. I have waited…and waited…and waited…and cried, and fought, and prayed, and bowed down with whispers of “When, God, when?” but I have never let go of the promises. I can’t. I mean, how could I? When the God of the Universe bends low to whisper a secret into your life, you can’t just let it go, can you? I mean, I guess you could, but that would be an utter denial of the life change caused by the whisper, even if the change is only visible on the inside. For me, to let it go would be like losing a limb. So instead, I hold tight through it all; all the joys, trials, pains, hopes, betrayals, struggles, victories, discipline, and questioning.
This move to Texas is technically due to Benj’s new job. And I’m so happy for him – so happy. But in my heart, from the very moment I knew we would be moving (and I knew before anyone else…remember those God-whispers I was talking about?), I knew so much of this was going to lead to the fruition of 20+ years of prayers and dreams, the things planted inside me as a small girl. I know a little about how it’s actually going to look – but only a little. The rest is just expectation and belief lighting up like fireworks inside my soul. I know it’s coming…and I know it’s going to be beyond what I could even ask or imagine. But right now, right in this moment, the circumstances are tempting me to feel alone, forgotten, and overlooked.
But really, honestly, I know that’s just smoke. I know these are just shadows. Because I know the reality: My God SEES ME. My God KNOWS ME. My God REMEMBERS me every single moment. My God is the Dream Giver and the Dream Fulfiller. And He is holding my hand and telling me to keep holding tight because soon, so so soon, we will be running.
Like I said, it’s a microcosm of my life; this little moment in the middle of the tornado. I’ve learned how to wait and wait well, to wait actively, with faith as my guide and hope as my anchor. I understand that what I learn in between seasons and in the middle of unforeseen moments are the exact tools that I need for the next season and the next moment. Nothing is meaningless when I walk with Christ. So I know, I KNOW, that this time of waiting is just a chance to breathe before I’m swept up completely in the dreams of God’s heart, in the story that He’s written over my life, the story of rescue and compassion and mission and hands reached out and heart broken open for the world.
And so I rejoice. I choose joy. I tear off the heaviness and the gray and fight to the light and the color.
Here I am, God. Let’s do this. I am so so excited.
Jesus Lover, wife, mommy of two, writer, God-dreamer, and adventurer. Host of Monday Morning Espresso podcast and gatherer of those who dream at GabiRuth.com.
* Microcosm Moment was originally published at gabiruth.com.
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The two women didn't expect to find the stone pulled away, two angels before them, and certainly not the resurrected Jesus on this very early morning. No; they expected to find the body of a man they loved very deeply lying in a tomb. But now Mary Magdalene and Mary, mother of James, were amazed at what they saw before them. The tomb stone was rolled away by one heavenly angel while another was in the tomb.
The two women hurried into the tomb looking for Jesus, but all they found were the outer garments he had been buried in. This, a symbol that Jesus had left his earthly boundaries behind and was now risen [as he proclaimed he would]. The angel proceeds to speak some of the most powerful words ever uttered,
Jesus, the man they knew as the Son of God now gone from his grave. A declaration not only to them and the Roman guards that stood by speechless, but to all that he was indeed God, resurrected from death. This...this was the very moment that changed everything for humanity!
This weekend we celebrate what has become Easter, but more than any Easter basket or Sunday lunch with the family, we highlight this event. Easter weekend is all about him and what he did. Jesus didn't have to wrap himself in flesh and come to Earth, but he did. He didn't have to live in obscurity for 30 years, but he did. He didn't have to carry each of our sins and take our punishment of death at calvary, but he did. Jesus did--for you and for me! He temporarily gave up the beauty of heaven to carry the sins of men from Earth, into death, and free of it all victoriously back into Heaven. Now we get this incredible gift of grace, salvation, and eternal security with the Father if we put our faith in him. There is no greater gift or love you could ever receive than this.
When you wake up tomorrow morning, you don't have to worry about the fate of Christ and carry any mourning. You get to wake up with eager anticipation that Jesus is alive and reigns victoriously, on Earth, in Heaven, and in your life. That is the hope you have and I pray you'll carry it like a flag you wave proudly in the streets of victory.
This is it--the end of the series on psalms. And of course, we must end it in praise! Throughout this journey, we've explored so many seasons of life and emotions: depression, thanksgiving, betrayal, trials, and praise. No matter where you are in life and what you are going through, there is something in the book of Psalms that will speak to your heart.
Let's end it with praise! And I think this is so important because praise and thanksgiving is so vital to our way of life and everyday walk. If we miss this, we miss the mark big time.
God is worthy of all glory and honor and praise, no matter what you are going through. Take this to heart and make it a priority. Don't let a day go by without doing this with passion and sincerity.
God is an good Father who gives good things, and every good and perfect gift comes from Him. Even the hard and heavy has value in His plans. He is worthy of praise! Will you give him honor and praise, the One who redeems and satisfies you?
Psalm 142 is a prayer of David's while hiding in a cave. David's was physical, but perhaps you've been in a proverbial cave before. Maybe even now. Because we all have our caves in life. That place in the darkness where we fell alone and afraid. David shows us how to respond when we find ourself in such a place.
In my Bible, I wrote out a progression I found in the Psalm a long time ago in my own cave. The progression goes like this:
- Cried Aloud
- Poured Out
- Trusted God
- Longed for God's Presence
- Confessed Need
- Asked for Deliverance
When in a cave, we often turn to prayer. This is, of course, a great place to turn to. Cry out to God, for He alone has the ability to turn your situation from turning to joy. He can bind up your broken heart! Don't be afraid to pour it all out to Him. God is a safe place--a refuge in time of trouble--that you can trust. Long to be in that safe place with Him--in His presence.
Once there, in that safe place in His sweet presence, confess your need and what you're going through. He's listening. And this is where it's ok to ask for deliverance from your situation. He probably won't create a shortcut or make it all go away, but if you ask Him to show up in your cave, He'll be there. And He will also get you through it. Have hope that He will come through for you!
Husbands, I took a poll and here are 10 things that might bother your wife if said!
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Unity is vital to a flourishing life. Forget prospering at work if you cannot get along with your co-workers. And don't think marriage can be healthy unless both are on the same page. Psalm 133 declares that unity with others is good and pleasant; refreshing like the oil or the dew. WHo doesn't want that?!
My favorite passage to break down in regards to unity is Ephesians 4:1-3. In fact, I recite it to myself daily because I believe it to be that powerful and that valuable!
Humility. Gentleness. Patience. Love
These 4 words, if embraced and lived out, can foster intimacy and ignite unity at all levels of your life. Furthermore, these attributes have the power to radically change your heart. I don’t know about you but there are a few of these I struggle to live out and diving deep into their meanings is reshaping my heart to be more like His. So not only is this a journey to unity, but it is a journey to be more like Christ.
- Humility - Putting others before yourself is hard and requires sacrifice. It means stepping back and allowing others to take the credit. It manifests in celebrating the success of others when they are recognized. It’s this very practice that cultivates unity. When you begin to put others first and to serve the people around you, you are fostering an environment of connectivity.
- Gentleness - When you interact with someone, Colossians 4 says we should do it in grace; that how we speak to them should bring out the best in them. Particularly in a tense moment or one with an unbeliever. Being kind to someone when your instinct is to lash out or correct is gentleness in action. Therefore, when anger begins to brew in you and in the other person, it’s our responsibility to diffuse the tension. Choose to turn the table by responding in kindness and gentleness.
- Patience - Focus on patience as you go through your day today. Catch yourself in the moments it is tested and embrace how you can grow in that moment.
- Love - When we commit to love others--to show them brotherly affection--we are doing one of the most important things we can be doing on this earth. It’s not an afterthought or something meant only for those closest to us; love is your highest calling. In fact, Romans says you should outdo one another in showing kindness. Imagine if everyone aimed to go above and beyond in loving each other.
Unity is incredibly desired by God, for His people. He longs to see His children live out humility, gentleness, patience, and love among each other and in a broken world. Begin to take steps in growing in these areas and living them out, and you’ll certainly honor Him.
Seek unity in your relationships, among other believers, and in your church, and watch as they flourish in ways you’ve never witnessed before. Unity is very important, so be a carrier of it today. Bring unity into your world!
If you would like to dive into this a bit more, check out my YouVersion reading called "Cultivating Unity" using the link below!
Coming in 2018 is...
The Untouchable Myth!
By the absolute goodness and grace of God, I recently signed a book deal with Baker Publishing/Chosen Books and my first will release in 2018. In The Untouchable Myth, I share my story of moral failure in ministry as a mid 20-something and what I learned through that journey--that to truly flourish in life you must be willing to admit weakness.
Although I know He's always good, God's faithfulness continues to blow me away! To take what I thought was the end of my story and journey, and to turn it into something beautiful and redemptive is both humbling and overwhelming. Now I get to share what He's done in my life and perhaps one of the most valuable lessons I've learned along the way to hopefully help others.
If you have a minute, please say a prayer. I've never felt such a burden for people, or a desire to honor God, or unqualified for what He's called me to. Prayers are much needed throughout this process! ;)
I have this to say to anyone out there with a dream in their heart--don't give up! This dream to love on and minister to people through writing was birthed as a midwest 20-year-old girl, new to ministry, 12 years ago. When I was 25 years old and at rock bottom after my moral failure, I honestly thought my dream was dead, along with any real purpose in the Kingdom. But He saw me and still had a plan for my life, buried under all the mess I had created. He redeemed me and that dream, beyond what I ever could have imagined! And finally, I've been on this book writing journey for 3 years now, working away in the hiddenness not knowing if it would ever produce anything.
Don't be discouraged by the timeline, haha! I share that to say that a dream is worth investing in and waiting for. God worked in my life and He wants to in yours! I believe with all my heart that if He would choose to use someone like me, He will use anyone willing to say "yes, Lord."
When I open up my Bible to Psalm 121, there are literally tears stains and makeup covering the page. This psalm has been a source of great comfort and encouragement in very difficult times in my life. I would literally hold this psalm to my face and proclaim it over my situation; crying out to God from the depths of my soul.
If you're going through a hard time, this is certainly a psalm you can turn to. It reflects on the source of your help and how God is there for you in your trials.
The psalmist starts out by asking (and answering) where his help comes from. His help--your help--doesn't come from men, resources, or things accessed in this world. God can certainly work through such means but when you're up against it, God is your help. We wage battles not against flesh but against principalities in the spiritual world. Certainly, the spiritual battle waging around you can manifest in the physical world but you need to know today that God is in control of both worlds and He alone has the power to bring victory into your situation!
Once the psalmist establishes where his help comes from--and now that you can be confident in the same--he describes how God shows up for His people.
- God is always alert. Even when you sleep, God is alert and ready to battle on your behalf You can be confident that He never takes a break but is right there, ready to act on your behalf.
- God always protects you. To shade your right hand, He cannot be far off. God is with you and will protect you, whether it be in the desert or in the dark. It doesn't mean challenging things won't happen to you but it does mean that He will watch over you and protect you.
- God is always with you. You can be sure that God will not walk away from you. In your comings and goings, God is with His people. You can call out to Him and know that He is right there, ready to respond.
If you're going through a difficult season, tap into this psalm and lean on God!
What kind of person are you when no one is looking?
When kings were often prone to self-indulgence and corruption in their hearts, David stepped into the role with a fierce determination to walk in integrity and purity. He penned Psalm 101 to declare his intentions to walk in such a manner.
Are you as convicted as I am by the question: "what kind of person are you when no one is looking?" It's easy to put on a show for others and to play the part of a good person. But...
- Who are you at home?
- Who are you with your spouse, kids, parents, siblings, etc?
- Who are you when everyone's in bed, darkness covers the land, and you're all alone with the tv remote?
- Who are you when the accounts are getting double checked at work and the buck stops with you?
What kind of person are you when no one is looking?
Today, it's time to take a self-examination in integrity and purity. It's time to stop leaving hidden sin in the shadows and to expose it in the light. It's time to stop operating out of an act and start being the real deal. How do you do that? Psalm 101 gives us a pretty good idea.
- Be pure in your own home.
- Put away the things that waste your time and lead into temptation.
- Stay away from those whose sins and impurity could rub off on you.
- Flee from what is evil.
- Do not slander those around you.
- Do not walk in pride or arrogance.
- Be around those who do have integrity.
- DO not lie or deceive.
I know this sounds like a laundry list impossible to accomplish. But I hope you'll see it more as a mirror into your own heart. Do you struggle with one or a few of these? Take one and start there. Focus on your greatest struggle.
One step in the right direction is always the right move.
Do you struggle with moments of fear and anxiety? The Bible has may tools that can help you throw off these shackles and live in freedom. This 7-day journey with YouVersion will help you navigate such a journey!
You can find the reading plan on your phone using the YouVersion Bible App by searching "Fear & Anxiety" or by clicking the button below.
Have you checked out my NEW Epic Fails Podcast? It released this past Wednesday with 2 episodes and you should definitely check it out!
The Epic Fails podcast contains powerful stories of God's redemption in people's lives. Every other Wednesday, I'll share stories of people who were radically transformed by Christ in spite of their reckless attempt to do life on their own.
Be inspired and encouraged by these stories and the power God has to transform any life, no matter where you come from or what you've been through!
In episode 01, I share my own story of redemption on the heels of a moral failure in ministry. In episode 2, I interview Coleman & Kellie Thimmes-they were drug addicts that met on the streets before separately going to prison. What God has done in their life is incredible!
You can listen to both on iTunes, Google Music, Stitcher, or on the podcast page here on my website!
Palm trees are one of the few trees that can grow in the desert; in fact, they not only grow but they flourish in the dry condition. Their roots dig deep to find a water source that can sustain them when the conditions are rough.
Cedar trees in Lebanon can grow up to 130 feet tall-- the height of the Christ the Redeemer Statue.
Both are incredibly strong. The palm tree is the only tree that will break anything that tries to bind it. The cedar is incredibly resilient to insects and its wood is often used for building structures and ships.
Psalm 92 describes the righteous and those who plant themselves in the house of God as people who will flourish like the palm tree and grow like the cedar. These people are strong, resilient, bear fruit in old age, and above all, find a source that will sustain them.
Their source is God.
The key to flourishing and growing strong lies in where we plant our roots. Some plant their roots in work, in financial security, or in relationships. But the wise plant them in the House of God. They plant them in a relationship with God, intimacy with Christ, reliability in the Holy Spirit, and in community with the body of Christ.
Are you feeling tapped out? Like a withering plant in the desert--parched and weak? Where are your roots drawing strength from? If an honest examination proves to be anything outside of the four sources above, then pick up those shallow roots and plant them deep in the eternal source.
People planted deep know to praise God in the good and the bad; the easy and the hard. It's resilience. Those who don't plant deep wither away like the grass.
What kind of person do you want to be today? What kind of roots are you planting and where?
Selah is a term in the book of Psalms often thought to mean a pause or interlude. Now that we're about half way through the book--next week we'll jump into Psalm 92--it seems fitting to take our own selah. To look back over the topics, seasons, and cries of a heart we've explored thus far.
This is a great time to go over any that you missed! Or perhaps, to take notice of the ones that fit your particular season. Below I've listed topics and categories that might fit what you're going through and added the psalms we've explored that would fit your season.
Take some time to pause and reflect on what God is wanting to speak into your specific situation and season!
- Betrayal: Psalm 3
- Depression: Psalm 42
- Distress: Psalm 3, Psalm 5, Psalm 9, Psalm 27, Psalm 42, Psalm 69
- Freedom/Shame: Psalm 32
- Needing Encouragement: Psalm 4, Psalm 23
- Praise: Psalm 8, Psalm 16, Psalm 19
- Righteousness: Psalm 1, Psalm 16, Psalm 37, Psalm 39, Psalm 51
- Struggle with Sin: Psalm 1, Psalm 32, Psalm 39, Psalm 51
- Trials & Tribulations: Psalm 3, Psalm 4, Psalm 9, Psalm 27, Psalm 42
- Worn Out: Psalm 5, Psalm 23, Psalm 69